Alisha Baldwin, Founder of Alisha Bee Spiritual Wellness 

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Alisha Baldwin is the founder of Alisha Bee Spiritual Wellness, where she offers intuitive guidance, energy healing, sound therapy, and vibroacoustic therapy. Her work is rooted in a simple belief: healing is not about fixing ourselves or becoming someone new. It is about reconnecting with the wholeness that has always been within us.

Her path to this work was shaped by experience that challenged her physically, emotionally, and spirituality. Her military service taught her resilience, adaptability, and the importance of moving forward even when the path looks different than expected. Later, navigating cancer, a stem cell transplant, and CRPS deepened her understanding of vulnerability, perseverance, and compassionate care. These experiences changed the way she understood healing and ultimately led her toward a more integrative approach to wellbeing.

After earning her nursing license and working within traditional healthcare, Alisha came to recognize that her calling extended beyond the role of trying to fix what was wrong. Her own experiences with recovery and self-discovery introduced her to energy work, sound therapy, and the ways these practices could support a deeper sense of awareness, calm, and connection. Over time, what began as part of her own journey became the foundation for the work she now shares with others. 

Today, Alisha brings together her clinical background, personal experience, intuitive abilities, and training in energy and sound practices to create compassionate, grounded spaces where people can pause, reconnect with themselves, and explore what their own inner wisdom may be saying. She does not see herself as someone who heals another person. Instead, she views her role as walking alongside people, creating a safe place where they can feel seen, supported, and empowered to participate in their own journey.

That philosophy extends beyond her individual sessions into her writing and teaching. Alisha encourages curiosity over judgment, presence over perfection, and awareness over fear. She believes that awareness creates choice, and that sometimes the most meaningful part of healing is simply having the space to remember who you are beneath everything life has asked you to carry. 

Her work continues to be spaced by the lessons her own life has given her: that resilience does not mean never struggling, that vulnerability can coexist with strength, and that there is profound value in being truly seen and supported.

Through Alisha Bee Spiritual Wellness, she hopes to offer others the same kind of space that became meaningful in her own journey: a soft-landing place where they can reconnect with themselves, trust their own inner wisdom, and remember that they were never broken to begin with. 

Share your journey of self-discovery. 

My journey to self-discovery began long before I understood that was what I was doing. At eighteen, I felt lost in the world. I was trying to choose a path that would make my parents proud while giving me independence, security, and some structure to fall back on. I was self-conscious, unsure of myself, and afraid of moving forward without knowing exactly where I was going.

That is part of why I joined the military. At the time, I had found a way to avoid having to figure myself out. I would have a job, gain rank, build a career, and have structure that told me where to be, what to do, and what came next. I thought I could simply check the boxes and make it through. 

Instead, the military became one of the places where I began learning who I was. 

I learned how to lead, how to use my voice, and how to stand by what I believed was right even when it differed from the majority. I also learned that other people’s opinions are unavoidable. I could do what was expected, be honest, follow the rules, and still receive criticism. Eventually, I realized that I could spend my life molding myself to satisfy everyone else, or I could learn to listen to my own internal compass.

One of the most important lessons I carried from my service was the importance of creating safety for others. As an air traffic controller and leader, I knew that attention to detail and competence mattered. But I also learned that when people feel safe enough to admit mistakes, ask questions, and examine their reasoning without shame, mistakes can become opportunities for growth. Safety creates trust. Trust creates alignment and understanding. Alignment and understanding create an environment where people can blossom.

When I eventually left the military, I realized something I had not expected: the military had become my identity. I had entered believing it would save me from having to find myself, and I left knowing I still had to do exactly that.

For a long time, I had moved from one identity to another. Trying to become what I thought I was supposed to be for the people around me. I compared myself to others and believed I was somehow falling short. I sought validation outside of myself because I had not yet learned how to see my own value. Eventually, I had to stop running long enough to meet myself.

What I found was surprisingly simple. I was allowed to take up space in the world. I was allowed to make decisions based on what I genuinely needed and wanted rather than what would earn someone else’s approval. I felt free, peaceful, and accepted.

I also learned that boundaries did not require me to become less compassionate. They allowed me to share my heart without feeling depleted or less than. I could be honest without being unkind. I found that positivity and kindness do not always mean comfort for others, sometimes it means having the courage to speak honestly with compassion. 

Today, when I look back at my younger self, I see someone who was simply trying to survive and find her way. I no longer see her uncertainty as failure. I now see it as part of the journey. 

I often say there are two things guaranteed in life after birth: change, and death. We can spend our lives fighting change only to meet the grave as strangers to ourselves, or we can spend our lives getting to know who we are along the way. For me, “I am me” sounds simple, but it has been one of the hardest lessons of my life. 

The military taught me that even the toughest situations have the ability to be resolved and overcome. Life taught me that one of the greatest challenges we can face is learning to truly know and love ourselves. 

Once I began doing the work for myself, I realized that I had been observing something in other people as well. We are all searching for ourselves in some way. That realization eventually became the foundation of the work I do today. 

I learned that I don’t have to tell someone who they are. What I can do is create a space where they feel safe enough to look inward, recognize their own strengths, and feel comfortable bringing more of who they truly are into the world.

What challenges have you faced along the way?

Well, the greatest challenge I have faced has been learning that my existence matters.

For many years, I felt like a third wheel or afterthought in life. I became very good at adapting myself to make other people comfortable. I watched what made people happy, what they wanted from me, and how I could fit myself into those experiences. Even joy became something I used as a tool to understand other people rather than something I experienced simply because it belonged to me.

That began to change during my cancer journey. When I was diagnosed, I received the messages people often give someone facing cancer: “I’m praying for you,” “Let me know if you need anything,” and “Let me know how I can help.” I was grateful, but also found myself wondering how I could make those people feel like they were contributing to my recovery. 

Slowly and quietly, those people began to disappear from my life. At the time, I felt sad and abandoned. I knew that people were uncomfortable. That they didn’t know what to say, how to act, or whether talking about their own lives was appropriate while I was fighting for mine. I hold no ill will toward them. As I look back, I recognize that their absence gave me something I did not know I needed. Space to simply be myself. 

I did not identify myself as a cancer patient. Sure, it was what I was going through, but for the first time I chose for that not to become my identity. I knew there was more to me than my diagnosis, even though my life was focused around my cancer journey. Lying in the hospital bed, I became aware of the very real possibility that any day could be my last. When faced with that fact, morality and clarity followed. 

I no longer felt the need to perform. I didn’t have to put on a brave face or pretend I was okay. There were days I cried, days I curled up in bed and refused to move, days when I mourned the life I might have lived instead. But there were also days when I smiled because I had made it through another round of treatment. There were nights when I couldn’t sleep and was filled with energy, so I walked to the nurses’ station and told jokes at one in the morning simply to laugh.

Through this, I asked myself one question that changed everything: “What could I do today to make myself happy?”

The answer led to a Halloween glow light party with the nursing staff. It wasn’t something I created because I was trying to please others. I did it because it made me happy. For the first time, I was choosing to do something for me. I still remember the green, blue, and red sticks glowing steadily in the darkness, and I felt at peace. I created my own joy instead of waiting for someone else to provide it for me. That was the beginning of my self-discovery journey. 

After that, I began to look at people differently. Instead of viewing them through the jaded lenses I had after years of trying to mold myself into what I thought others wanted, I became curious about them. I wondered what they were thinking, how they were feeling, and what their lives looked like beneath the surface.

I began to understand the beauty of genuine connection. I didn’t have to change myself to connect with someone. I could simply be myself and allow another person to be their authentic self. 

That experience also changed how I understood being alone. I realized that people flow in and out of our lives regularly. I am sure we have all had a childhood friend whom we swore we would be best friends with forever and never grow apart, only to one day realize we have no idea what came of them after. That is because relationships change. Lives change. People change. 

I realized that each of us occupies a unique space in this world. This space is shaped by our experiences, emotions, and perceptions. Looking at it like a cake recipe, each person is the living ingredient of life. Without one of those ingredients, something is missing. The taste may be a little off or the texture isn’t consistent. But together, our differences create something none of us could create alone. Through that, I accepted that I am a unique flavor as well.

Not everyone will like my taste or appearance, and that is okay. The world continues on regardless of who likes or dislikes me. My purpose is not to make myself palatable to everyone. It is to bring forward what enriches my own life to share with others. That is the ingredient I contribute to enrich the world. 

“Healing isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about returning to yourself.”

To me, fixing implies that something is wrong or that we are broken. I don’t believe that is true. Throughout life, we experience events and challenges that shape the lens through which we see the world. Our experiences influence how we respond to situations, how we protect ourselves, and what we expect might happen next. What may have once been a necessary defense can eventually become something we carry into situations that are no longer threatening. 

That doesn’t mean something is wrong with us. It means we adapted and survived. Our nervous system is constantly responding to what we have experienced. Sometimes we can find ourselves reacting to the possibility of something happening rather than what is actually happening in the present moment. We may carry fear, anxiety, grief, or other protective responses long after the original experience has passed. This is where I believe returning to yourself begins. 

Returning to yourself means creating a safe space within your own being where you can say, “I am okay. I am capable. I can continue forward.” It isn’t about erasing what happened. We cannot erase the past, and I don’t believe we need to. Our experiences become part of our knowledge and help shape who we are. The difference is learning to carry those experiences as wisdom rather than continuing to carry them as protection. I think of it as acknowledging the scars without continuing to carry them as armor. 

For me, that process was deeply connected to learning to see myself as an individual. When I was younger, I often compared myself to others and struggled to recognize my own value. I didn’t realize at the time that what I really wanted was to be seen as myself.

As I grew through experience, relationships, and challenges, I began to understand that I didn’t need to become someone new. I needed to create enough safety to finally meet the person who had been there all along. There is often a younger part of us that still carries the emotions and beliefs we developed when we didn’t yet have the understanding or coping abilities we have today. That part of us may still be asking to be seen, heard, and acknowledged. Returning to yourself is allowing that part to be recognized without allowing it to remain in control of your present. 

For me, releasing those old protective responses felt like unloading a bad I didn’t even realize I had been carrying. I felt lighter. I could stand a little straighter. I could listen to people without immediately preparing for what might happen next. I could respond rather than simply react. To me, there is a difference between reaction and response. Reaction can come from the emotions and protective patterns shaped by our past. Response allows us to pause, become present, and choose how we want to move forward. That is what I mean by returning to yourself. 

It is not becoming who you were before the pain. It is not pretending the scars aren’t there. It is integrating everything you have experienced while remembering that those experiences are only part of your story. Underneath all the noise, there is still a part of you that knows how to exist without fear being the only lens through which you see the world.

For me, returning to myself meant creating a safe space where I could simply exist. And once I learned what that calm could feel like, I wanted to create the same space for others. Perhaps it is almost like becoming a child again, not in innocence or naivety, but in wonder. Looking at the world with curiosity instead of constantly anticipating what might hurt. 

We are not broken people who need to be fixed. We are people who have lived. And sometimes healing is simply remembering that beneath everything life has taught us, we are still here. We are still capable. We are still ourselves. 

Tell us about the Path to Wholeness Session.

A Path to Wholeness session begins before the actual work begins. When someone first walks into my space, there is often a moment of uncertainty because they don’t know what to expect. Then I may see them look around, take a deeper breath, and begin to settle. I often hear clients express that they feel calm and peaceful when they enter my space. That is intentional.

Before each client arrives, I prepare the space by meditation to bring forward calming and inviting energy into the space. I also welcome energy forward through sound that will meet the client where they are so that they find what they are seeking. I want to create a neutral environment where there are no judgments or expectations placed on the person entering it. It is a space where they can breathe, relax into the chair, and feel supported enough to communicate what brought them in that day. 

We begin with conversation. I listen openly and ask questions where appropriate to understand what they are experiencing and what they hope to receive from the session. I pay attention to their words, their body language, and the energy behind what they are sharing. My intuition helps me understand where we might begin. 

For Path to Wholeness, we always begin with the vibroacoustic table and meditation music. This allows the body to relax and settle into the present moment. As the body relaxes, I remain connected to their energy. It is difficult to describe exactly what I am sensing, but it is almost as though the body sighs when it is ready for the work to begin. 

That moment matters to me because I don’t want to force someone into a process simply because I have decided it was time to begin. The client indicates to me, through their own state of receptivity, when they are ready. We work together from there. 

Once they have reached that place, I begin the energy work by assessing their energy centers and then working with the energy throughout the body. I don’t rush through this process. I remain present with what I am sensing and allow the session to unfold around what feels most important or most needed for that individual in the moment.

Sometimes, as someone becomes more relaxed and receptive, their spiritual experience may also deepen. They may experience a sense of connection with angels, guides, ancestors, or loved ones who have passed. At times, messages or insight may come forward. I don’t try to dictate what someone should experience. I create the space for them to remain open to whatever feels meaningful and appropriate to them. 

Throughout the session, the client remains the driver of their own experience. I explain what we are doing and what they may experience, but I encourage them to accept what feels right and leave behind what does not resonate. 

Acceptance is opening the door to the possibility that something may come forward that is ready to be acknowledged or released. Integration happens when we allow ourselves to consider that possibility without forcing an outcome. 

I don’t want someone to feel they have to accomplish something during a session. They decide what they are ready for. I can hear what someone says, but truly knowing where they are is something unique to them. I never explore beyond what they are comfortable sharing without consent. Their comfort and safety are top priorities. 

They are the driver of their own journey of self-love and transformation. I am there more like a navigation tool, bringing experience, understanding, and intuition to the journey while allowing them to remain in control of where they go. 

Before we ever begin the session, we also talk about how they would like me to bring them back if they enter a very deep state of relaxation. Some people prefer a soft or firm hand on the shoulder. Others are more comfortable with a gentle touch on the foot. Even this is determined by the person in front of me. Their comfort and consent matter throughout the entire experience. 

When it is time to return to an awakened state, I slowly lower the volume of the meditation music, normally after the vibroacoustic portion has concluded, until it becomes inaudible. I then pause and give them space to remove their headphones or eye covering if they are ready. 

If they remain deeply relaxed, I use the method we discussed beforehand. I may say their name and welcome them back to the present moment. I encourage them to move slowly, take their time, and never feel rushed.

Once they are fully present, we allow a few moments to settle back in before discussing what they experienced. We talk about what came forward, what they noticed, and what areas of their energy were explored. When appropriate, I may also offer practices or actions they can take with them to continue the awareness that began during the session. 

For me, the most important part of the Path to Wholeness is that the client never has to surrender their own authority. They don’t have to perform, meet expectations, or force themselves toward an outcome. 

They are given a space to breathe, listen inward, and become more aware of themselves. Sometimes the most meaningful part of the session isn’t what someone accomplishes. It is simply recognizing that they are capable of being present with themselves, listening to what they need, and taking the next step when they are ready. 

What will people notice when working with you?

When someone first works with me, there is often an air of uncertainty mixed with curiosity. They may wonder whether the modalities I use will be beneficial for them or whether they will even enjoy the experience. I understand that. Many people are encountering sound, vibration, energy work, or spiritual practices for the first time, and they may not know what to expect. What I hope they notice first is that they are not being rushed.

I begin with a conversation. We talk about what brought them in, what they are hoping for, and what they may or may not be comfortable exploring. I give them the controls for their experience. They decide what they are ready for, and I never want someone to feel as though they have to accomplish something during the session. I also want every person to know that they are not just another body moving through a service.

That phrase has always carried meaning for me because of my own experiences with the medical system, where the pace and structure can sometimes make people feel as though they are being moved through a process as efficiently as possible. I intentionally counter that in my work by being present and open with each person. 

Every client brings their own history, perspective, experiences, and emotional capacity. Each person experiences the world differently, and I consider it an honor to accompany them for even a small portion of their journey.

There is also a reciprocity to the relationship that I value deeply. They may learn a strategy or perspective from me, but I learn from them as well. Every person teaches me something about an experience I may never have encountered myself or shows me another way of processing something I thought I understood. Every session brings a new level of awareness for me. Sometimes the meaningful changes are very small. 

Someone may tell me, “I took time today to just sit under a tree and breathe.” Another person may tell me they finally said no without worrying about how the other person would feel. These moments may seem small from the outside, but they can represent enormous changes in how someone relates to themselves.

I often tell people that boundaries are not walls that keep everyone out. They are filters that help us determine who and what we allow into our lives. I also invite clients to stay in communication with me after their session. I provide my contact information and encourage them to reach out in the following days to let me know how they are continuing to feel. Sometimes that conversation helps us understand what was useful or what they may want to explore further. Other times, they contact me simply to share something good that happened. 

One client once contacted me after a session because they had spent years staying mostly inside due to an ongoing struggle with pain. We had discussed different tools and agreed that vibroacoustic therapy and tuning forks might be something they would benefit from exploring. A few days after their session, they told me they had finally left the house and enjoyed something they hadn’t been able to since their difficulties began.

Then they asked which tuning fork I had used and whether I would be okay with them getting one of their own. They jokingly told me that they were my worst client. I immediately told them they were a wonderful client. They had found something they felt benefited them, and instead of becoming dependent upon me, they had decided to take charge of their own life. I offered to help them become comfortable using the tuning fork themselves, but what mattered most to me was that they were moving from feeling trapped inside their home toward living more of the life they wanted. To me, that is autonomy.

It is also the reason I don’t believe my role is to be a book of answers. I walk alongside people. I answer questions, but I also ask questions that invite them to look inward and think more deeply about themselves without feeling bad for doing so. It is one thing for someone to tell you what you need. It is another thing entirely to discover what you need for yourself. That philosophy is reflected in each of my programs.

Path to Wholeness is the place I created for people who may be curious about this work but don’t know where to begin. When I first experienced sound and energy work myself, I remember being unsure about what I needed or which modality might be right for me. I wanted to make that first step easier for others.

Path to Wholeness incorporates the different services I offer, with the exception of spiritual communication. The focus remains on the person’s physical, mental, and experiential process. This allows someone to experience the different approaches without having to choose based solely on terminology they may not understand. We can then talk afterward about what resonated with them, what did not, and what they may want to explore in the future. 

Focused Energy & Calm is for someone who wants to focus specifically on their energy centers and energetic experience. For those who want it, there may also be an opportunity to open to spiritual communication, allowing guides or angels to come forward and offer another perspective on what the person may be experiencing. 

Psychic medium readings are different from my other services. They offer an opportunity for someone to seek clarity around a situation they are navigating or to experience a connection with someone who has passed. These readings are often described as evidential because I may bring forward information that would not typically be known to me about the person who has passed or the person seeking the connection. For many people, the experience is about finding a sense of peace, clarity, closure, or the ability to move into a new chapter. 

Vibroacoustic therapy is often chosen by people who are simply looking for a way to relax. That may sound simple, but when we really consider how little time most of us spend in a genuinely relaxed state each day, that simplicity becomes meaningful.

Vibroacoustic therapy gives the mind and body a moment to breathe. Through sound and vibration, the experience creates space to step away from the constant doing of everyday life and move into a deeper state of rest. For many people, it can feel like a reset that leaves them feeling more balanced and energized.

It is also a relatively short commitment. Sessions can last up to 45 minutes depending on the purpose of the session, but for someone with a busy schedule, it can provide an intentional moment of self-care without requiring a large investment of time. 

As with every session, I begin with conversation. During the first session, we discuss what brought them in, what they are hoping to experience, and anything they feel is important for me to know. In subsequent sessions, I check in about how they have been feeling since our last session, whether anything has changed, and whether there is a particular area they would like to focus on.

At the end of a vibroacoustic session, I may also offer targeted tuning fork work when I feel it could complement the experience. The client always decides whether they would like to include it. While vibroacoustic provides a broader, whole-body experience of sound and vibration, tuning forks allow for a more focused application to a specific area. 

Private and group sound baths offer another way to experience sound and vibration, particularly for people who may not be ready for a one-on-one session. There can be something comforting about knowing you are not the person lying down and listening to the instruments. A group setting can feel less like the focus is entirely on you, which can make it easier for some people to relax and become receptive to the experience. 

I incorporate energy work into sound baths based on what the host or primary participant is looking for. Sometimes the intention is simply deep relaxation. Other times, it may be about marking a new beginning or creating space for something meaningful. Each person can have a completely different experience within the same room. The possibility for relaxation, awareness, or whatever else arises is there, but I never expect everyone to experience it in the same way. 

That is really the thread connecting everything I offer. The modality is a tool. The person is the individual.

Sound, vibration, energy work, and spiritual communication can each meet someone where they are, but there is never an expectation that someone has to experience something a particular way. My role is to create the space, offer the tools, listen, ask questions, and accompany them while they discover what feels right for themselves. And ultimately, I want them to need me less.

That doesn’t mean my door closes. It means I know they are growing into themselves. If someone becomes comfortable with who they are, confident in their decisions, and better prepared to navigate whatever life places in front of them, then I have watched something beautiful happen. 

I want people to leave feeling more present than when they arrived. Sometimes I see it in their shoulders, no longer pulled toward their ears. Sometimes it is in the way they stand taller without being tense, or the way they walk with a little more confidence and ease. Sometimes they simply look around as though they are seeing the world for the first time and let out a long sigh.

Those moments matter to me. Because my hope is not that someone walks out believing they need me to be okay. My hope is that they walk out realizing they are capable of being okay within themselves. 

Client reflections.

1. Alisha is absolutely a beautiful spirit. I instantly felt safe throughout the whole experience. She made my first session with her so relaxing and non judgmental I will be back and stay in contact with her. I definitely recommend 10/10. – Jamarla Broomfield
2. We loved this experience with Alisha. She is an absolute gem. My bestie and I had separate sessions and we have very different knowledge about the nature of alisha’s services and we both walked out feeling positive and motivated and knowledgeable about what we need on our separate paths. She sent a follow up too after which was helpful because I was afraid I would forget. Very professional, knowledgeable, kind, encouraging. I felt like I was in the midst of a friend. Thanks alisha bee!!!!! -KT
3. Alisha is wonderful! Her energy is so pure, and her space is so welcoming and inviting! I had the opportunity to have a session with her. I went into it feeling heavy, angry, and like I was in a void. During her session, I felt everything lifting ! I came out feeling refreshed and open energetically! I highly recommend anyone to try her vibroacoustic therapy, energy work, and tuning forks! You won’t be disappointed. – Dustyn Cole
4. My experience with Alisha was truly life changing. Alisha is extremely gifted, and the information she was able to share with me has already brought so much value and perspective into my life. Her genuineness, care, and light shine through immediately upon meeting her. I HIGHLY recommend her services!
   🌟10/10! 🌟 – Kelcie Madden

The greatest lessons I have learned.

The greatest lessons I have learned are simple, although they were not always simple for me to understand. 

First, loving yourself is not selfish. For much of my life, I believed that taking care of myself meant I was somehow taking something away from someone else. I have learned that loving yourself allows you to understand your own needs, recognize your own limits, and decide when you have the capacity to pour into someone else’s cup. It is much harder to genuinely give from a place of fullness when you are constantly abandoning yourself in the process.

Second, you are unique, and your existence matters. There is no one else who can bring the exact presence, experiences, perspective, and way of seeing the world that you bring. We can compare ourselves to other people and spend years trying to become something we think we are supposed to be, but no one else can occupy the space that belongs to us. 

Third, knowledge is only power when it is shared. It is wonderful to learn and gain knowledge, but if we keep everything we know to ourselves, we may reach the end of our lives as the only person who ever carried that particular understanding. When we share what we have learned, we allow that knowledge to continue beyond us. That is one of the reasons I teach, write, and share what I have learned through my own experiences. 

Fourth, life is meant for experiences, not simply for constraints. Making a living, building a career, pursuing an education, and meeting our responsibilities all have value. They help shape us, but they are only part of what it means to live. If we are constantly waiting for the next accomplishment, the next milestone, or the next thing we are supposed to do, life can pass us by before we realize we were never really present for it.

And fifth, everything we do creates a ripple. I recently had a conversation with my husband about how insignificant one person can seem when compared with the size of the universe. I see it differently. Every choice we make and every action we take has the potential to create a ripple that travels far beyond what we can see. We may never know where that ripple goes or who it touches. 

A kind interaction can change someone’s day. Something we teach can influence how someone treats another person. Choosing joy, compassion, patience, or understanding can create an effect that continues beyond our own awareness. 

Human existence can feel demanding, difficult, and even pointless at times. I have been there. But when we look back and consider how our actions may have affected the people who were watching us, we may see our lives a little differently.

These are the lessons I try to share with my clients, but I don’t believe in simply telling someone how they should live. I would rather help them discover what is already within them. I acknowledge the struggles that brought them to me and the path they have traveled. Sometimes, simply seeking support is evidence that they already love themselves more than they realize. They may be struggling to express that love because of the demands and expectations they have learned to carry.

I sometimes ask a client to bring forward a positive memory, preferably something recent. Then I ask them to imagine that moment is happening in front of them and that they are simply a bystander watching it unfold. Then I ask questions like: What do they see? How does it make them feel? What does it make them think or want to do?

This allows them to experience, in a very personal way, how one person’s actions can affect another. We are interconnected, and our presence matters even when we cannot see the full extent of our influence. From there, I ask them where they want to be with themselves. Do they want to relinquish control of their joy, emotions, or future by waiting for someone else to provide what they need? Or do they want to become the curator of their own life?

Being the curator of your life means recognizing that you have the power to decide how you want to meet the day. It doesn’t mean you control everything that happens. It means that instead of automatically reacting to something and allowing your emotions to flare, you can pause and respond in a way that aligns with who you are.

You can stop taking responsibility for other people’s actions because you recognize that each person is their own keeper. You can stop waiting for someone else to fill your cup and begin meeting your own needs. You can become comfortable with who you are.

Sometimes we spend years trying to create the right picture by adding people to our lives, removing people from our lives, changing ourselves, or trying to fit into someone else’s idea of who we should be. Then we discover that the missing puzzle piece was us all along.

I hope that the people I work with eventually reach a place where they no longer need me. I tell my clients how proud I am of every milestone they make. When someone reaches the point where they no longer need my guidance, I am genuinely excited for them. I feel that I have accomplished my part of the journey we are walking together. 

There can also be some sadness because I enjoy their company, and friendships can naturally form along the way. But I would never want to stand in the way of someone moving forward. I celebrate their accomplishments with them and wish them well as they continue their life journey.

Perhaps it is a little like watching a child grow into an adult. I don’t have children of my own, but I imagine there is a whole mixture of emotions watching someone you have cared for become fully themselves. There may be sadness in knowing a chapter is ending, but happiness wins because you know they are ready for what comes next. That is what I want for my clients.

Not for them to need me forever, but to recognize that they have the ability to become the curator of their own lives, to trust themselves, to experience their lives fully, and to understand that their presence matters. Because the goal was never for them to become someone new. It was always for them to recognize who they already are. 

Learn more about Alisha and her work at alishabeespiritualwellness.com